Discussion: Single Vs Dating

Based on the number of pros and cons is it better to be single or in a relationship? What's your opinion ?

Depends heavily on age, financial security, and where each person is with regards to school/work/life experience. Right now as a college freshman living in the dorms it's better for me to be single.

I was expecting single to be less popular.

Yeah. It usually is. It was difficult for me because I was going into college 100 miles away and my girlfriend was back home going to be a senior in high school so it didn't really work out. We're both happy doing our own thing now. Being single isn't bad if you've got the right mindset.

« Last edited by steelersrock01 on Apr 12th 2014 »

I just masturbate all the time. Single or not.

All the time?

At least six times a day.

Only six?

This turned into Reddit remarkably quickly.

Steelers said:

Only six?

Used to be a lot more, but it's kind of made me numb. I don't feel as much, so I tend to have high endurance... Don't judge me.

I don't think this thread is about being single or dating anymore...

steelersrock01 said:

Depends heavily on age, financial security, and where each person is with regards to school/work/life experience.

I agree with this, but I'm sure most people would rather be dating no matter where they are at.

Yeah the companionship is better in the long run.

Novus said:

Steelers said:

Only six?

Used to be a lot more, but it's kind of made me numb. I don't feel as much, so I tend to have high endurance... Don't judge me.

Respect.

I think your mentality has a lot to do with it too. If you don't like yourself, don't even attempt getting into a relationship. You expect too much out of the other person to make up for what you lack, and the sends the whole thing spiraling out of control. You also have to decide what is important to you, and if school or your job is more important to you than anything else, you better find someone who feels the same way. If one person values career over the relationship, it just wont work. There are really special cases, but I hate saying that because it gives people the idea that they can be a special flower and be the exception to the rule. Assume you are not the exception. Always. But I've seen career driven people make their relationship work (work>relationship, but they mutually understand that between each other). Relationship valued relationship just remind me of teenaged romance honestly. It can have sparks for a few years, but it will fizzle out over time.

Moral of the story: stay single until you know who you are and where you want to be. Then find someone understanding of that. If you're one of those negative nancy's that can't find one nice thing to say about yourself, you need to stay single.

Well as long as dating stays at dating then its good. Being single or dating are both equal to me. Dating just means you have a significant other on a level beyond physical relationship that you have an emotional attraction to. Single means you are more free. In a relationship means you are less free. Pros and cons sort of even out.

Right now I am in a similar situation as steelers except my girlfriend is only an hour away, and she is a freshman in college while im a senior in highschool. So the problem I will have soon is when I go to college and it changes from 1 hour to 3+ hours. At which point I don't see a problem with staying in the relationship and since their is skype I will still be able to see and talk to her often enough.

But I guess it depends on the person in question and their situation.

Yeah. I'm single, but not worried about it at all.

I'm... 'physically close' with enough people that I'm not worried about that particular aspect of human relationships.
I'm 'emotionally close' with enough people that I don't typically feel 'alone' or anything like that. My friends and a few members of my family are the most important things in the world to me. Being in a relationship, to me, has always just been... Showing that I'm emotionally closer to one particular person. I'd say three of my ex-girlfriends are still on that level - I care for them deeply and would do almost anything for them, but the relationships didn't work out. Not compatible enough or whatever. But I don't currently feel that huge initial emotional attachment to someone at present, so I'm single.

I'm commonly called an ashole and/or whore for saying it, but I really am just interested in having sex. If I can keep doing that, I'll be fine. If I find someone that I have more of an emotional and mental attraction to, I'd be just as fine. Maybe even better.

Novus said:

I really am just interested in having sex.

That needed to be quoted.

"Find what you love and let it kill you." - Bukowski

So death by snu snu?