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Don't worry buddy, I'll send you a message ASAP. Too bad you'll be banned by then & it wont be possible :(
In terms of negative family experiences I've been pretty lucky ie no-one with a potentially terminal illness, & only one sudden death (my old granddad who also had dementia).
Because of that it's gotta be coming to the realisation I so long dreaded that I was gay. Yes there are some pros, but there are a lot more cons. It's just reeeaaaalllly sh!tty. Having to live a lie & everyday avoid the inevitable bombshell you will one day have to reveal. I honestly don't have the effort to explain every single detail; I'd be here until midnight. But generally seeing everyone around you enjoying their lives, knowing they will one day be a parent of a wonderful child that is their own flesh and blood. Because of it I think the friendship I have with my best friend (guy) will start to fade eventually. Straight guys talk to each other about girls & go out together to stripclubs. They hang out with each other. And then gay guys end up hanging out with others like them, or girls. We will slowly move apart. He has friends who are straight. And they'll go out together & do those things.
Even after saying I wouldn't go on, I got out a paragraph. If I had the time I could literally write a short book. I haven't moved past these struggles I face or think about. I'm still not out to everyone, and don't plan to be anytime soon. It's such an unnecessary event that will only bring complications, potentially ruin friendships, & open myself to even more judgement. Then there's the fact I'd be giving my dad the gift of 2/2 gay sons.
Just annoying. The guilt, humiliation, isolation, self-hate etc. But to be honest, my life has been quite good in terms of having little struggles. I mean for the first 14 years of my life it never even entered my mind that there would be a possibility my sexuality would be different.
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~ Sometimes people change, but sometimes you just open your eyes & realise who they truly are ~
I have never once been to a strip club! Being gay shouldn?t be a deciding factor on whether or not true friendships last or not. Once you find comfort in yourself. You take the power of being able to hurt you, away from those that would.
And that?s the biggest piece of advice anyone can give you. Is to learn to accept and love yourself. Once you do, you?ll realise that everything else, just doesn?t matter all that much.
And gay guys can hang with whoever there is no limitations on only hanging with other gay men.
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Family Member Deaths, most notably, for myself. A few more personal things, but only a few people know those. You gotta be my bestie-bestie to be told those. ;)
sphynxx - Yeah, I've been told that advice before. That's the issue. I see a solution to the problem, but it's not gonna happen anytime soon. I don't love myself. It'll come eventually. And with the hanging out thing, it's not that I'm not gonna hang out with my friends. It's that there will be things my friends do and talk about, that I just won't be able to do or comprehend. There has to always be some small level of divide, even if no-one wants it.
Dan just you wait. The next few years of your life will be VERY fun...Well depending on what academic level of school you choose to do.
Warrior, obviously it's up to you whether you share things & don't feel pressured, but you know you can share things with us. We're not all weird. I shared deep things with my bf (best friend) only, but then just decided to share them here. We don't have to see you and speak to you on a daily basis.
~ Sometimes people change, but sometimes you just open your eyes & realise who they truly are ~
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