you have to beat falkner, the violet city gym leader, then go to the violet city pokemon centre, and talk to the proffessor stadning just to the right of the counter...
Join this site...http://s14.invisionfree.com/ChaoticRoleplayRealm/index.php?
and this one...http://gameknot.com/?rfr=diezombie...when you sign up the second one, where it says referals by, type in diezombie