it's easier to get the handmieden as a jedi if your light. just heal people, side with khunda on dantione, ect. also, fight her 3 times on the ship and talk to kriea, then kriea will say something about her mother. with enough influence, talk to the handmaiden about "teaching her something." i can't remember about atton, though. you can check the walkthroughs, and there should be an influence guide by Dsimpson there.